Obsessions

I have just realized who the most obsessed group of people on this planet are: and it is not Japanese business men buying pussy in a can see here if that sounds intriguing - ah I thought so, are we back yet? - no seriously, it seems to be women (couples?) with a child-wish.
And by that I do no mean the ones who haven't got a partner yet, and whose biological clock is ticking…
I am thinking about those who have it more difficult, those that go through IVF treatments. And really there is nothing wrong with this, but all the panic, effort, obsession and money around this, surely feels kind of wrong!

Now I was listening to this BBC4 radioshow about women who cant get pregnant and those who "want to help" - totally self-less of course - - and amongst those those who are in favour of IWF and those who oppose it. What I realized was how DESPERATE women can get, and to me, honestly it seems to be bordering to an obsession at a concerning level. Is it society that puts up the pressures, peers, the women themselves?
I don't know, what I heard, made it very clear, that with every failure it gets more difficult and those women are prepared to go through more and more pains to try again, without clear understanding of all aspects of it in many cases as it seems:

It is expensive of course, but I am not just talking money here. Serious hormonal treatments. Risk of cancer and other disorders later in live.
One women quoted on the show impertinence/brutishness to complain about having gained weight and now being concerned about (future) health risks after her 4th or so IVF treatment. Good god girl, grow up! You should have used your brain! If you weren't good for that, how would you have raised children?! Use your brain. What did you think those pills they gave you were? Dietary supplements?
Does this not show that these people are not aware in the slightest of what they do? Now of course you could argue if they shag they are neither, so why should they be here? Point taken. But if society supports them, then it becomes our responsibility as well, so…

Because NHS (that the British government health system) presumably has a note in their mission statement to support the right for a child of every women see BBC on that. What a weird right. Nature guarantees that and we must not take it away, but apart from that... I understand where it is coming from, but some things shouldn't be regulated. Like the right for work. The regulation must be against its negation. Otherwise society becomes responsible for its fulfilment which might be not possible.
Now I wonder where this is coming from. This doesn't sound like governmental altruism, that sounds more like pharmaceutical industry and fertility clinics pushing their own dividend-focused agenda into a government funded general-good coat.

So is this - too - a problem of society not being able to deal with an issue, and its major corporations (who are obviously, but easily forgotten also part of that society).

How about those children, perceived by IVF? There are currently 3M of them worldwide, but all of them quite young. We do not have any long-term studies of how they develop, or rather what side-effects their way of perception might develop for them… Isnt that a little careless of a sooo loving mother?

Now think about it, what kind of parent can these people be, should it really work out at some point. Surely they will let go of their obsession and be the most relaxed and easy going parent… you bet… If I was mean I link to this. And even if you argue that parents conceiving the "normal" way, are statistically not better - I would event end to agree - so please, nevertheless, make an effort and let go, if it doesn't work, just your own sake and happiness.

OkOk, I am not in this situation (yet?) so I can easily talk, but surely, no-one can have everything they want, so get real! There are other strong instincts within us which we (kind of) managed to overcome control, so make an effort for Christ's sake…

Interesting enough, there are studies that suggest that a VAST number of women with problems to get pregnant, can get pregnant much easier when stress levels are reduced, through cognitive therapy etc, without the use hormonal treatment etc… Of course this is strongly opposed by the IVF industry mentioned above. I wonder why…